The perpetrator of domestic violence : a social work intervention

Abstract

Although many men experience themselves as out of control or controlled by emotional outbursts when battering, their behaviours are not without intent. They may become almost automatic, but with few exceptions each abusive act can be traced to the intent of the batterer. Batterers, like everyone else, have been immersed in a culture that supports relationships of dominance. This cultural acceptance of dominance is rooted in the assumption that, based on differences, some people have the legitimate right to master others. Yet, not all men batter women, though all men have been socialised in a society that grants them certain gender privileges. Ultimately, we are all accountable for our own choices. Abusers are capable of personal transformation, and many of them will make extensive changes if certain conditions exist. First, the abuser must be held fully accountable for his use of violence by a community that establishes and enforces consequences for continued acts of abuse. Secondly, he must have an environment that is non-violent, non-judgemental, and respectful of women and children in which to start making those changes. Finally, he must be willing to work through a long process during which he is painfully honest with himself and becomes accountable to the woman he has harmed.